I’m going to be honest, I love being a girl but it’s a difficult task. I attended a conference exclusively for senior high school girls with the hopes of choosing the path to empowerment, boldness, resilience and beauty.
If you ever get the chance to listen to Vita Adam do a motivational speech, DO LISTEN! She’s a very inspiring lady whose vibe is just so energising. ❤ She reinforced all the very important issues and challenges we face and encouraged us to change the world.
To be BOLD is to be strong, confident, fearless but most importantly, courageous. Being bold in a society that’s constantly trying to confine us and push that we’re not good enough is a challenge. If you want to try something, just have a go! If you want to try different hobbies or sports or food, just do it! And don’t do it for others but for yourself. You can only fail if you don’t try.
Words are very powerful, especially names, and have either a positive or negative impact on us. The more they’re repeated, the more you believe them. I try to refrain from using negative and degrading language about other people both male and female, and also myself because it does nothing but make yourself look and feel bad. When asked to list the various good and bad things we call others and ourselves, I was honestly shocked by the amount of terrible and sad words girls call other girls, their ‘friends’, and themselves. I call my friends sugar, honey, babe, darling or just a nickname derived from his/her actual name. Last year I also came to terms with myself and promised to only speak positively about myself, however not arrogantly. Even as a joke I really don’t see any humour in calling friends
s1uts, b*tche$, id!ots or fat. Some people, maybe even some of you are thinking that I’m way too serious or can’t take a joke but that’s just proof of the belittling culture we live in. Why is it more common to find girls calling each other names with horrible definitions compared to kind positive names?
By us females calling each other certain names, we are also giving men permission to do so. We’re always trying to straighten up the guys and teach them to respect girls but we must start with each other. Like the Cheetah Girls said, “We are sisters, we stand together. We make up one big family, though we don’t look the same.” Girls, we have to look out for each other all the time. Changing the world starts with you. Sure, the entire world isn’t going to change in an instant because we treat each other kinder but it’s a step in the right direction. No one is perfect and it’s natural to make mistakes but we need to practise a healthy culture, which includes a positive sisterhood, not only for ourselves but for younger girls – those who admire and look to us for guidance and as role models.
We are a beautiful specimen just as are males. Each one of us is unique, smart, and important. We must always remember to have courage and be kind. It takes a strong wave to go against the current but we all have that power and can be amazing people.
“Where there is woman, there is magic.” Ntozake Shange